Since I have got married, everyone keeps on asking me to put on some weight.
firstly, I am purposefully not trying to "maintain" my weight. secondly, i don't need anyone to tell me to put on weight - it has been a life long attempt on my part to put on weight. thirdly, after marriage i have world's licence to put on weight. and lastly, is it a mandate that i have to put on weight after marriage. i mean what has changed that i need to put on weight???? is it because my work portfolio now includes working as a house maid that i need extra energy?
another reason could be that it will look like bride torture if i don't put on weight in my husbands family.
i am SLIM (not thin), and up to an extent i m proud of the fact. i m not happy that i m unable to gain even couple of pounds quickly, but that does not make me anorexic, bulimic or weak. i have ample stamina to work 12 hours straight on my feet. i m rarely sick and have good innate immunity. i have a strong constitution and i am healthier than many pseudo healthy (appropriately weighing) people. by appropriately weighing people, i mean three things. one they have proper height - weight ratio. they have correct BMI and they have correct weight according to people and their current situation in life. for eg, in india if u r 5' 6" tall female, before marriage your ideal weight should be 55kgs. after getting a job u r allowed to become 58kgs, around marriage time u should be 56kgs, after marriage u should be 60kgs and after 1 kid 63kgs and after 10 years of marriage and 2 kids later who cares if u r as big as a whale, u have a husband and family, u r non existent as a singular entity............you are obscure.
i don't need any ones permission/ suggestion to gain weight. i am proud of the fact that i can eat 1pound bag of chips and not worry about gaining flab. i feel happy when i slip into size small shirts and size 4pants. i am happy that i m quick n agile, i can fold my body into any position without slightest discomfort. i am happy that while my contemporaries are looking like aunty's i m still thin. i cant stop age advancing on me, my body or my face, but at least i can retain the body from my youth!!!!
